depression and ex boyfriend?

[Monica T]

depression?
depression im not sure how to help my boyfriend we have split over his anger ,we have been living seperatly for 3 month we have an 8 months old baby whom i want him to be part of her life he wont due conciling and he has done the medication they make him to non functioning he says im 21 and he's 27 im in counciling but he wont come so i cant move back in till he deals with his anger ,he loses his jobs regulary he wont applie for ssi .i want to help him i want to understand i want a family with him any suggestion will help councilers have already said to leave and dont look aback i want our relationship to work i dont want to give up on him people deal with this all the time i need answers and ideas

[Kathy R]

I just got out of a relationship that was almost identical. You can't change someone. They have to WANT to change. If they don't, you're fighting a lost cause. Move on now before you lose your mind trying to figure out how to fix this. There is no fix until he's ready to fix himself.

[UpanishadMorning]

Sometimes we want to hold onto someone and help them for reasons we don't understand. Just remember that if you make the decision to take care of yourself and your child it is not something to feel guilty about. He is 27, he is an adult and if he wants to help you and your child he should be able to do so. It sounds like he doesn't even want to help himself. How can he be the best thing for you? People do have difficulties all the time, and often they stay in bad situations when the best thing for them would be to move on. We can never change someone who isn't ready to do it for themselves, no matter how much we wish it would happen. Trust in yourself and your ability to have a life that is peaceful and hopeful.